Namaste,
I would like to touch on something that everyone struggles with. Change in life.
Life is like that one flaky friend who you can never rely on, sometimes they'll be there for you in the most beautiful loving ways, some days they'll forget that you want to connect to them. Life is a constant state of flux.
Further, at least across the atlantic, the emphasis on peaceful unchanging life is so poisonous because it rots the insides. We are so averse to sadness and suffering that we don't see its value and so it comes out at the worst times in the worst ways.
For someone reading this who is afraid of pain and suffering, I want to tell you that you should embrace the sadness, and relish in the suffering. But not in a sado-masochistic fashion.
What I mean is that you should not see suffering as punishment. That Which is outside of material reality exists in no dichotomy but the closest proxy for it is pure and unadulterated love and joy. Even those times when the darkness is coming from all corners, don't see this as punishment.
Life being a constant state of flux means that no happiness, no sadness, no pain, no love is permanent. However, when one looks closely enough, when one realizes transcendence, one can see that although these things are different, they are also one.
Ask yourself, when was the last time utter bliss changed you for the better? Barring realization and attainment, material bliss is a stagnant force. While we all desire comfort, it does nothing to improve our character, or our love for the world. Now ask yourself, when was the last time an insult or sadness made you actively try to better yourself? Made you push yourself to be the best possible you? I'll bet you can remember at least a few times where the darkness inspired you to embrace the light.
Further, Life is suffering, no matter what, so if you embrace suffering like an old friend, treat it with due respect, feel bad when woes are beset upon you, then you will have attained to such a high state that happiness will be everywhere for you. Think of suffering as a way to make you the best person you can be, see insults as ways to improve and push yourself.
That isn't to say that perpetual negative external events is necessarily a good thing. When you see past your own suffering, look to others, do your best with what you have to make others rise above their own pains. In this way the world improves, and although you will never remove pain and sadness, you will work towards creating joy.
I apologize if that strayed and got very preachy towards the end, but I hope my point is clear.
Have a good day everybody.
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