Re: Mangalsutra
Namaste Maggie,
Originally Posted by
MaggieJoh
I bought myself a Mangalsutra shortly after finding my path and have worn it religiously (haha) only taking it off for medical treatments and the like. However earlier this year it started to need some repairs and instead of wearing it and damaging it more I've left it in the hands of Maa and now comes the point at which I need help...
Your post is confusing to me. Mangalsutra is bought by husband for his wife and he puts it on the neck of the bride at the time of marriage. Here you say that "you purchased it and wore it" ... which is intriguing to me. Mangalsutra is a sign of married woman and she wears it everyday wishing a long life for her husband and with a vow to remain fully devoted to her husband.
I am starting to doubt my belief in the black beads.
There I wrote it, I actually put it out there in text for the world to see. *deep breath*
It is nothing so great to be so much worried about it.
I am still spiritually a "Hindu" but I almost wonder if Moksha is working on me and my knowledge is going beyond these seemingly superstitious beliefs. And why should I be the one to have to bear it when my husband does not? Is Maa not just as important? Is my life not equal to my husband's? I should include here that I do not accept the Laws of Manu whatsoever and am absolutely disinterested in any teachings of any faith that would have me trail after my husband like a dog.
You do whatever you feel is right for you. See, whether it is important or it is not depends upon what you think about it. When the Hindu marriage takes place, it is not only the bride but the bridegroom also takes required vows to keep the sanctity of marriage institution and for leading a spiritual, healthy and happy conjugal life. I don't understand why wearing a Mangalsutra offends you so much if you really love your husband and if it makes him happy if you wear it. What is the harm ? It is not bondage but love. The bondage can be there even without this sacred thread (like in Muslims) and you can be free and loved even if you wear it (in traditional Hindu family). Do you think that Hindu married women who wear it are treated like slaves by their husbands ? ... It is a very narrow-minded thinking. Let's feel proud of our customs and traditions. A small symbolism goes a long way to promote and maintain love in our lives. This may seem trivial but it can play an important role if you give it the value it deserves.
OM
"Om Namo Bhagvate Vaasudevaye"
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